♥ Heartbreak
Saturday, 30 December 2017, ϟ
بِسْــــــــــــــمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيْـــــمِ
Assalamualikum. Hi everyone.
It's about heartbreak.
So im just gonna drop you the hard-truth now : there's no shortcut to healing. you can't put a band-aid over it, you can't photoshop it away, you can't magically make it dissappear. you can't do any of it, but we can try to cope with the pain. and we all cope with pain in very diff ways : some of us straight out just numb and suppress these feelings, some of us cry to sleep, some of us throw ourselves to our work so that we keep ourselves busy.
whatever your choice of coping the mechanism is, know that it will only take your mind off about your real feelings just for a while. because it is what it is- it is a coping mechanism. but it doesn't deal with the feelings that you have.
the only way to deal with the pain (and you might be disappointed by my suggestion) is to just ride it out and give it time. because the truth is, there's no quick sure-fire way to stop the pain immediately, and completely. and although it may be a long journey ahead to recovery, trust me on this, you will eventually reach the finishing line insyaAllah.
i remember when i was trying to get back on my own two feet, i kept telling myself, "you just have to move forward by 0.001 cm today." just keep moving forward, crawl if you have to. but move forward so that you are on your way to healing. it takes time, but while you are giving it time, you have to remember this extremely important point : please help yourself to heal.
i give you an example. you know if you have a bad fall, and it cuts your skin so bad, you see all this blood and you feel all this pain. but your body is already on its way to healing. you will notice a scab, and this scab protects your wound, and the skin cells underneath are already working hard repairing the wound. but we have very itchy hands and we are very impatient beings. so simetimes we scratch at our scab, sometimes we pick at our scab. and when that happens, the new skin underneath that is trying to heal itself, will begin to tear.
it's the same with heartbreak. you heart is stronger than you give it credit for. and while you are still hurting, your heart is already preparing itself to heal. to forgive. to move on. but when we start "picking on the scab", i.e when we keep revisiting old memories, or when we insists to hold on to things or people that have already left. we are being our own obstacle to our own healing. so please don't pick on the scab while you are healing. please, please help yourself to heal.
find Him. cry to Him. and pour your heart out to Him. for only then, can your "heart finds rest." {Quran 13:28}
may He ease your way to healing,
your journey to the new 'you'.
Labels: broken heart, healing, sweet notes
